Weddings, Anniversaries and Remembrances

"Were my whole life to come one heap of troubles, The pleasure of this moment would suffice To sweeten all my grief’s with its remembrances. -- Lee

The object of an Anniversary is to bring back memories which were occasions of joy, and to renew occasions which thrill us with recollections of a time long past. There are many happy anniversaries which loving hearts commemorate-the birth of a child; the hour which marks some crisis in life; the happy day when two lives flowed into one. There are also sad anniversaries when memory gives up her treasures, enabling us to live over the mournful hours when a dear one said good-bye. These we do not celebrate outwardly; they are held in our hearts, sacred and precious forever.

Wedding Anniversary

The wedding anniversary meets with most favor, and is observed more universally than any other. It is the event which brought most happiness, and which never loses its beauty and romance for those who started out properly mated, in life together. This anniversary is made more pleasant too, on account of the social reunion of old friends and relatives. Many observe the return of this day in the quiet of their own homes, with a few select friends, or make an excursion or outing with them, or the husband and wife exchange gifts, enjoying the day among dear ones of the house hold. It is a beautiful custom on the part of the children to remember the recurrence of the day by presentation of flowers, or some simple piece of their handiwork. Social usage has decreed that this day be distinctly named, and publicly not privately celebrated. On these occasions if the bride has kept in tact her wedding dress, she wears it, and conforms in every respect to the fashion of the original wedding. On the Twenty Fifth year of married life where the original bridesmaids, groomsmen and clergy were present and took part in festivities. Such a chance for rehearsal of the greatest event in life is exceedingly rare, and should take place.

THE PAPER WEDDING

StationaryThe first celebration is known as the paper wedding, and is held at the end of the first year of wedding life. Suitable gifts are easily procured, since there are so many beautiful things in paper, as boxes of stationary, books, artificial flowers, fans, glove-holders, pictures, etchings, book marks, ect. all of which are acceptable.

THE COTTON WEDDING

This marks the second anniversary. The invitation should be printed on fine white muslin. The gifts attending it will readily suggest themselves.

THE LEATHER WEDDING

StationaryThis the third anniversary, we here little about, probably due to the difficulty of selecting a gift. The leather satchels, trunks, paper folders, desk tops, slipper cases, portfolios, music rolls, would seem to form wide latitude of this material.

THE WOODEN WEDDING

This the fifth anniversary, is the signal for a general frolic. Anything may be sent from a wooden nutmeg and a saw horse to a sofa, or piano. Then there is fancies carved in wood, brackets, wall pockets, easels, footstools, piano stools, are all wonderful offerings; also powder or hairpin boxes or thimble cases.

THE TIN WEDDING

This is a reminder that ten years of alternate sunshine and shade have rolled on. A happy time of merry-making is had, and fun reigns triumphant. Tin colored strong paper invitations are sent out. On this occasion gifts partake of the commercial and useful, from a tin whistle, to a wash boiler, most of these gifts belong to the kitchen and not the parlor. They maybe as ridiculous and useless as possible.

THE CRYSTAL WEDDING

StationaryThis marks the fifthteenth anniversary. An elaborate entertainment maybe provided, and handsome glassware is brought by the guests. The articles in order here are countless. Epergnes, berry dishes, bon bon dishes, ice cream sets, lamps, mirrors, goblets, wine glasses, finger bowls, vases, bouquet holders, cake dishes, pickle jars, celery boats, cigar jars, all are useful.

THE CHINA WEDDING

StationaryA wedding which takes place on the twentieth anniversary has a flavor of solidity, and the presents are in keeping. Sets of china dishes, porcelain ornaments, bisque figures, plaques are very elegant.


THE SILVER WEDDING

A couple who have lived together for twenty five years are entitled to consideration in these days of loose and irreverent treatment of the marriage tie. This wedding is of importance, and celebration is in corresponding good taste. The husband and wife are not old-they are still young enough to enjoy heartily the attending ceremonies. Flowers music and brilliant lighting are necessary accessories. The invitation should be in silver letters on fine white paper. This is the form:

Stationary

1975 2000
MR. AND MRS. TOSTENSON
Request the pleasure of your presence
On Thursday, December Twenty Second,
At eight o’clock.
SILVER WEDDING

Or

Mr. AND MRS. TOSTENSON
Request the pleasure of your company
On Monday evening, March 31, at eight’o clock
To celebrate the
Twenty Fifth Anniversary of their marriage
Rural Route 2, Nicollet, Minnesota

An effort must be made to have all the bridesmaids, groomsmen, and old friends present. The supper should be very elaborate. When the wedding cake is brought on with a ring enclosed, the bride and groom cut the cake, and it is claimed that the unmarried man or women this slice falls will be married within the year.

THE GOLDEN WEDDING

StationaryThis is an anniversary vouchsafed to but few. Fifty years together –a half centaury of varied experiences. Great are the rejoicings, and many the kind wishes of those who partake of this glad occasion. The preparations are even more extensive then for the silver wedding. The form of the invitation is the same, save that they are printed in gold letters, and the words there on are Golden Wedding. The presents are of that precious metal and the reader needs no assistance in selecting them.

THE DIAMOND WEDDING

But if the wedded pair who has been together fifty years awakens our admiration, what shall we say of those who journey together for Sixty years? This is very rare. And when the anniversary is observed, the gifts must be precious stones and valuable. Old age can be made very lovely, and the pair that have passed sixty years in each others company are honored pilgrims in the pathway of life.

GIFTS
First…………………………………………………..Paper
Second………………………………………………...Cotton
Third………………………………………………….Leather
Fourth………………………………………………..Cooper
Fifth…………………………………………………Wooden
Sixth…………………………………………………Pewter
Seventh………………………………………………Woolen
Eighth………………………………………………..Glass
Ninth……………………………………………….. Iron
Tenth………………………………………………..Tin
Eleventh……………………………………………. Linen
Twelfth……………………………………………...Silk
Fifth teenth…………………………………………..Crystal
Eighteenth………………………………………….Floral
Twentieth…………………………………………..China
Twenty Fifth………………………………………Silver
Thirtieth…………………………………………..Pearl
Thirty Fifth……………………………………….Coral
Fortieth………………………………………………Ruby
Forty fifth…………………………………………...Bronze
Fiftieth………………………………………………Golden
Sixty ……………………………………………..Crown
Seventy fifth…………………………………………Diamond

THE WEDDING RING

The Wedding ring is of Roman origin, and was given by the bride groom to the bride as a pledge of their engagement. In Juvenal we read that a man always placed a ring on the finger of the lady of whom he was betrothed. Kings and other dignitaries gave rings as pledges of good faith, and much importance was attached to them as a means of identification or as pledges or promises made. Then as is now the ring is placed upon the women’s left hand, and so universal is this custom among Christians that the plain gold circlet worn by the woman, has become the outward symbol of her being married. There is alas a movement among the suffragettes that even men should wear this woman’s symbol to show equality within the marriage. It is considered a bad omen to do so in the presence of a good and polite society, were our life’s roles are perfect in design as the Almighty has ordained them.
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